You have probably noticed that things have been a bit quiet around here recently. I haven’t written anything and posted it here for a while.
This is because I feel so unworthy to write and maintain a website dedicated to being a good dad, when I fail at this myself all to often.
Writing articles that are encouraging to others when it comes to being intentional seems so hypocritical when I can look to my own family and see how I have failed time and again to do and be those things with my own kids and with my own wife.
As a result, I am having a hard time with this.
I have not totally given up on this though. As I gain some traction with my own kids, and find things that help me be more of the dad I am called to be, I will continue to share them here. I’m not certain what that will look like, or how often it will happen. But I plan to keep this thing going.
As a dad, I have failed time after time with my kids. I fail as an example. I fail when it comes to my temper. I fail because I put myself ahead of them. I fail because I am inconsistent. I fail because I let them down. I fail because of my own attitudes. And I am not the dad they need me to be.
And that is very discouraging to me. How can I be a support to others when my own house is in such disarray?
I don’t know the answer to that.
What I do know is that I would like to have your prayers. I want to be the best dad that I can be to my kids, and the best husband I can be to my wife. I want them to look back on these years, the years of their childhoods, and recall a dad who loved them and did his best to be the best dad he could be. I don’t want them to remember their childhood with shame and resentment.
I need to be more consistent.
I would appreciate it if you would remember me in your prayers, asking God to help me be that dad.
And, as I am able, I’ll continue to share this journey with you all.
Be deliberate, Dad!
How do you stay encouraged as a dad? What do you do to help you be the dad you are called to be? You can leave your thoughts in the comments below.
Wow. It’s like reading my own thoughts. I’ve had a couple of good days, but only after weeks of struggle. I will pray for you, you pray for me. Teach because you can, not because you are perfect. Men need help through their own failure.
Thanks Dow! I really am feeling inadequate for the job right now…
Dear Jeff,
Thanks for sharing process as a father trying to love and build his home according to Godly standards, by now i am well aware too as a dad that building correctly and accurately is by itself warfare, i shall pray for the grace of God to flow in this area and be encouraged by His word below, lets keep at it, Thanks as always.
Proverbs 24:16 For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again, But the wicked stumble in time of calamity.
Thanks! I appreciate the prayer support.